Thursday, 8 December 2011
Joiners wanted
The following is taken directly from an article from the 9marks blog by Jonathan Leeman (read the full article here) I've been thinking a bit recently about why becoming a member of a church is important and what the benefits are. I think this article is pretty good but you may have other ideas, feel free to share them.
REASONS TO JOIN THE CHURCH
Typically, I generally encourage a person to join the church...
For the sake of the pastors. It lets the pastors know who you are, and makes them responsible for you (see Acts 20:28; Heb. 13:17).
For the sake of obedience to Jesus. Jesus did not give you the keys of the kingdom for binding and loosing. He gave the keys to the apostolic local church (Matt. 16:13-20; 18:15-20). You don’t have the authority to baptise yourself or feed yourself the Lord’s Supper. It requires a church to affirm your profession of faith, which is what membership is at its very heart (see Acts 2:38).
For the sake of other believers. Joining makes you responsible for one local congregation, and they for you. You now own or have a share in their discipleship to Christ. That is, you are now responsible for their growth and professions of faith, insofar as you are responsible for the church’s faithful gospel preaching (Gal. 1) and that individual’s discipline (Matt. 18:15-20; 1 Cor. 5).
For one’s own spiritual good and safety. Suppose YOU ever become that lamb who wanders away from the fold (Matt. 18:12-14). It’s your church that Jesus will send after you (Matt. 18:15-20).
For the sake of non-Christian neighbours. Membership helps to protect and promote the reputation of Christ on earth by guarding the church’s witness (see Matt. 5:13-16; 28:18-20; John 13:34-35). Membership is how the world knows who represents Jesus!
DIFFERENT REASONS FOR NOT JOINING
The more specific counsel that I offer depends on why the person is not joining:
“I’m a member elsewhere.” Sometimes people say they don’t want to join because they are a member of a church elsewhere. If that’s the case, I try to explain that church membership is not a sentimental attachment. It’s a living, breathing relationship. If you’re in a place for more than a few months, you should join the church you attend.
“I had a bad experience with a church.” Maybe a person had bad, even abusive experience with a previous church. When that’s the case, patience and understanding should certainly be shown. Their challenge is like the challenge of someone coming out of an abusive marriage. It’s hard to trust again, and one cannot force trust. But you also know that recovering relational health means learning to trust again, which always involves taking a risk. Bottom line: you should still encourage the person to join, even if your manner and pace might adjust.
“I don’t trust the leadership.” If a person refuses to join because they don’t trust the leadership, then they should be encouraged to find a church where they can trust the leadership and join it. After all, do you really think you’ll grow in Christian maturity when you don’t trust the ones leading you toward it?
“I don’t agree with everything in the statement of faith.” See last answer (find a church where you do and join it).
“It’s not in the Bible.” For the person who is not convinced a matter is biblical, I’ll usually ask them to consider Matthew 18 and 1 Corinthians 5. I’ll also explain that, no, “club membership” is not in the Bible, but that church membership is more like citizenship, which is why Jesus gave the apostolic local church the keys of the kingdom.
Tuesday, 15 November 2011
Say it loud
Jenny Houston is the most wonderful woman I know... LOL.
Where I come from - the glorious Provence of Ulster - public displays of affection are rare; we shrug a lot and get on with things, we muddle through, we keep on keeping on. Only every now and again will the majority of folks bring out a hug, reveal a tear, allow their emotions to show through but when we do it can be such a relief, like a valve has been opened and some pressure released.
So who do you need to love-out-loud?
Don't just love them, love them out loud.
I'm quiet, I like to keep my inside thoughts on the inside and that's OK. Some folks like to be private some like to let it all hang out. Some are intro some are extro, people are different.
Where I come from - the glorious Provence of Ulster - public displays of affection are rare; we shrug a lot and get on with things, we muddle through, we keep on keeping on. Only every now and again will the majority of folks bring out a hug, reveal a tear, allow their emotions to show through but when we do it can be such a relief, like a valve has been opened and some pressure released.
We need to be careful that in our language of banter and brave faces we don't forget that the people around us still need to know and hear that they are appreciated, needed, wanted and loved. Don't think that just because it might feel a bit weird saying words like 'love' to your spouse or parents or siblings it means we never have to say them. It's time to start loving-out-loud.
So who do you need to love-out-loud?
Your wife of husband who defend you no matter what...
Hey Jenny, you're more than I deserve, I love you! LOL
or
Your mum or dad who happily pour their life savings into getting you were you want to be...
Hey mum your the greatest, I love you! LOL
or
Your brother or sister who put up with your tantrums and clean up your messes or put up with your moods...
Hey bro, you my best friend, I love you! LOL
or
Your Pastor who breaks his heart for you when you do things your way...
Hey Frank, thanks for your patience and guidence! LOL
or
Those people who pray and pray and pray for you even when you hardly give them time of day..
There are too many of you to list here but you know what? I love you all! LOL
Don't just love them, love them out loud.
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Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
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Thursday, 10 November 2011
5 reasons to go to church
There may well be lots of reasons to avoid the big building down the street with strange people going in and out. You're a busy person, you've got a social life to maintain, a family to organise and a job to fit in on top of all that.
So why is it worth your while to call in and hang around? Here's just five of the millions of reasons to go to church.
1) They want you there
Everybody loves to feel wanted and at church that's what you'll be. You'll get a hug, a handshake, a cup of tea... whether you are brand-spanking-new-never-been-there-before or returning after a while away or they just haven't seen you since last time they will be thrilled to see you.
2) They've got good news to tell you
Seriously, the best news you've ever heard - that God loves you and even though you've only done things that deserve punishment He sent His Son to take our punishment so that we could go free, be in a relationship with Him and worship Him forever in Heaven! Now that's good news.
3) They love to be kind
Christians just love being kind and delight in being nice. When they're in good form there are no more pleasant people to be around than church-going, people-loving, Jesus folk.
4) You don't need to be fixed to go there
So your life's a mess, so what? Church is full of broken people but they are there because they know it's God who can fix them, it makes sense you know.
5) You can find your place
There is a place and a purpose for you in this life and it's found in Jesus. At church the people there will help you find out what it is and give you a wee hand reaching your potential.
You got any other reasons for dropping into church?
So why is it worth your while to call in and hang around? Here's just five of the millions of reasons to go to church.
1) They want you there
Everybody loves to feel wanted and at church that's what you'll be. You'll get a hug, a handshake, a cup of tea... whether you are brand-spanking-new-never-been-there-before or returning after a while away or they just haven't seen you since last time they will be thrilled to see you.
2) They've got good news to tell you
Seriously, the best news you've ever heard - that God loves you and even though you've only done things that deserve punishment He sent His Son to take our punishment so that we could go free, be in a relationship with Him and worship Him forever in Heaven! Now that's good news.
3) They love to be kind
Christians just love being kind and delight in being nice. When they're in good form there are no more pleasant people to be around than church-going, people-loving, Jesus folk.
4) You don't need to be fixed to go there
So your life's a mess, so what? Church is full of broken people but they are there because they know it's God who can fix them, it makes sense you know.
5) You can find your place
There is a place and a purpose for you in this life and it's found in Jesus. At church the people there will help you find out what it is and give you a wee hand reaching your potential.
You got any other reasons for dropping into church?
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Hebrews 10:24-25
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Monday, 7 November 2011
For flip sake
Jesus is amazing.
There's no two ways about it, Jesus is simply the most amazing person to ever live on this planet. Even before He walked the streets of Jerusalem He was doing astounding things. Creating everything for example, that was pretty cool.
I had the immense privilege of speaking at a B.B. enrolment recently and decided to talk about when Zacchaeus met Jesus. Of course Zac was pretty small which proved to be a problem when trying to catch a glimpse of the Author of Creation when He came to town.
'Back-flips!'
There's no two ways about it, Jesus is simply the most amazing person to ever live on this planet. Even before He walked the streets of Jerusalem He was doing astounding things. Creating everything for example, that was pretty cool.
I had the immense privilege of speaking at a B.B. enrolment recently and decided to talk about when Zacchaeus met Jesus. Of course Zac was pretty small which proved to be a problem when trying to catch a glimpse of the Author of Creation when He came to town.
Why? Because of the crowd. Yes, not surprisingly, a crowd had gathered around Jesus because he had been doing amazing things. Just to make sure everyone was still awake I asked the boys in the B.B. for examples of some of the amazing things Jesus had been doing. A little Anchor Boy raised his hand. Eager to hear the child acknowledge the wonders of Jesus I scurried over to him, microphone in hand and repeated the question, 'What amazing things had Jesus been doing?'
He looked me in the eye and said confidently...
| Seriously? |
It was funny so we all laughed but that little boy summed up very nicely the danger a lot of us face. We find the mundane distractions of this world so thrilling that we overlook the genuine awesomeness of Jesus Christ. We are far more impressed that Gary Lightbody can sing almost a whole song in tune or that Mrs Gaga (she's no lady) can walk about in her knickers bleating on about some Spaniard (not that I have any problem with Spaniards) or that a over-groomed footballer can do keepy-uppies while tweeting quotes from Chaucer than we are that Jesus, God the Son, after creating the world and all that's in it should come into His creation, suffer and die in order that the same ones who rebel against Him may not only go free but live eternally in paradise with Him!
Open your eyes to the true wonders of this universe and praise the name of Jesus.
Show me the wonders of your great love, you who save by your right hand those who take refuge in you from their foes.
Psalm 17:7
Monday, 26 September 2011
Prayer...
Just do it!
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Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Romans 12:12
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Philippians 4:6
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Tuesday, 20 September 2011
Lazy bones
Beds are awesome.
They support your entire body all at once, they always have time for you, they don't talk back. But they really come into their own when when you are so exhausted you can't sleep, when you are beyond tired and into a zombie-like comatose, when you are so tired that your eyelids, the tiniest of tiny slithers of skin, become too heavy to hold up. It's when you get to that stage that you are able to do the end of day flop unto the deep soft duvet, surrender to your body and slip serenely into deep, deserved, delicious sleep.

But then sometimes it's just nice to lie-on. You've had your nights sleep, you have recovered but now it's just preferable to stay where you are. It's warm and cosy where you are and it's cold and busy where you're going. But hey, you weren't made to lie in bed, you were designed to do stuff, useful stuff so get up and get on.
Of course there are more comfort traps than double beds - there are jobs, relationships, churches, dole offices and many more things that we can lounge about in longer than necessary. They can be really useful, supportive, encouraging and productive but they can become so comfortable or safe that we wallow in them longer than we should. Challenge yourself to get up, shake yourself down and get on with life.
They support your entire body all at once, they always have time for you, they don't talk back. But they really come into their own when when you are so exhausted you can't sleep, when you are beyond tired and into a zombie-like comatose, when you are so tired that your eyelids, the tiniest of tiny slithers of skin, become too heavy to hold up. It's when you get to that stage that you are able to do the end of day flop unto the deep soft duvet, surrender to your body and slip serenely into deep, deserved, delicious sleep.
But then sometimes it's just nice to lie-on. You've had your nights sleep, you have recovered but now it's just preferable to stay where you are. It's warm and cosy where you are and it's cold and busy where you're going. But hey, you weren't made to lie in bed, you were designed to do stuff, useful stuff so get up and get on.
Of course there are more comfort traps than double beds - there are jobs, relationships, churches, dole offices and many more things that we can lounge about in longer than necessary. They can be really useful, supportive, encouraging and productive but they can become so comfortable or safe that we wallow in them longer than we should. Challenge yourself to get up, shake yourself down and get on with life.
Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth.
Proverbs 10:4
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Friday, 16 September 2011
Are you Gideon me?
Below is a video blog by Penn from Penn and Teller, the famous magicians.
Penn Jillette is an out and out atheist, He takes a lot of time arguing that all religions are ridiculous and has even produced a 9 minute video in which he attempts to discredit the Bible (don't watch that one if you are easily offended!).
I got this link through a blog I follow so you may have seen it before, hopefully it will challenge you the way it has me.
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Tuesday, 13 September 2011
Name and shame
I love giving stuff names.
Whether it's a new pet, a church organisation or an imaginary coffee shop I get super-excited about what it might be called. If someone were to suggest doing something a little left-field like, say, buying a goat, I'll not be thinking about how much food it needs or whether it's going to chew more than just weeds, I'm not concerned how much milking we'll need to do or how we'll get rid of the mountains of poo. Oh no, I'm asking, 'What're we gonna call the little blighter?' before not getting one in the end after all (see yesterdays post for the reason why).
Some friends of mine have made an attempt at starting a band. Just imagine my delight when they came rushing to me to think of a name for it (I might be misremembering that part). Being Christian lads they wanted something nice and Holy and I was on it. I was churning out great names faster than Elvis performs weddings, I was on fire, here are some of my favourites:
Some corkers I'm sure you'll agree but they went with none of them, Every suggestion I made was met with a look that said, 'Yeah thanks, em... we'll put it on the list.'
Names are not the be all and end all, it doesn't really matter what people call you, it's what you're like on the inside that's important, right? Well sort of. Your name is not important but if you are going to put a label on yourself you'd better live up to it. If my musical friends call themselves a 'Christian' band and then go on drink and drug fuelled benders, smashing guitars over pensioners heads and throwing TVs out of hotel windows then the label means little. In fact it would be better for them to have avoided that label altogether.
Many of us claim to be one thing and are really another. Let's make sure we are faithful to the labels we so proudly hang around our necks.
By the way, got any good names for a band?
Whether it's a new pet, a church organisation or an imaginary coffee shop I get super-excited about what it might be called. If someone were to suggest doing something a little left-field like, say, buying a goat, I'll not be thinking about how much food it needs or whether it's going to chew more than just weeds, I'm not concerned how much milking we'll need to do or how we'll get rid of the mountains of poo. Oh no, I'm asking, 'What're we gonna call the little blighter?' before not getting one in the end after all (see yesterdays post for the reason why).
Some friends of mine have made an attempt at starting a band. Just imagine my delight when they came rushing to me to think of a name for it (I might be misremembering that part). Being Christian lads they wanted something nice and Holy and I was on it. I was churning out great names faster than Elvis performs weddings, I was on fire, here are some of my favourites:
The Saints
Sons of Thunder
God's Own Anointed Teenagers
Kingdom of Silence
The New International Versions
White Stone
In Tune with the Lord
Some corkers I'm sure you'll agree but they went with none of them, Every suggestion I made was met with a look that said, 'Yeah thanks, em... we'll put it on the list.'
Names are not the be all and end all, it doesn't really matter what people call you, it's what you're like on the inside that's important, right? Well sort of. Your name is not important but if you are going to put a label on yourself you'd better live up to it. If my musical friends call themselves a 'Christian' band and then go on drink and drug fuelled benders, smashing guitars over pensioners heads and throwing TVs out of hotel windows then the label means little. In fact it would be better for them to have avoided that label altogether.
Many of us claim to be one thing and are really another. Let's make sure we are faithful to the labels we so proudly hang around our necks.
By the way, got any good names for a band?
He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To him who overcomes, I will give some of the hidden manna. I will also give him a white stone with a new name written on it, known only to him who receives it.
Revelation 2:17
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And now, a song about identity...
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Monday, 12 September 2011
Handbrake off
You see them in movies, hear about them in songs and read about them in books. They are the ones living your life, the life you dreamed of in school. The difference is that at some point you decided that those dreams were only flights of fancy - not for the likes of you.
I'm like that. I have a big old fear of standing out and looking silly, I need a good excuse to do anything in public. For example, The Wife and I thought long and hard before we took a trip to the pound to get Rocky in order that we would be confident that we could justify getting him to the people around us, I even struggle to go into a coffee shop on my own in case someone might think I'm an odd ball. I'm starting to think that I live my life in fear of other people's opinions rather than by what I know to be right or good or, frankly, what I think is fun.
| In our street on Saturday night! |
Of course if this is true (and not just a bout of grumpiness) it's entirely my own fault. I am ruled by God not other peoples opinions or my own fears or the judgements of strangers. I, we, have a great big bucket of potential to fulfil, we are made for greater things, for harder things, for great adventures whether of the traditional high-octane kind or adventures of the heart, adventures of the soul, adventures in the name of Christ.
Jesus did many a miracle in His day but in John 14:12 He says, 'anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these.' Even greater? Wow...
So turn off the can't do attitude, break out of the Golden cage you've built for yourself and step on to the aeroplane of awesome that is the life God intended for you. Live fully now.
'I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.'
John 10:10
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Thursday, 8 September 2011
False bottom
People in Rathcoole are generous, that's just the way it is.
We have what we call a trolley ministry in our church. It's a simple idea, people bring along some extra groceries to church and leave them in a trolley in the front hall. Once it has built up a bit those groceries are passed on to families who are struggling to make ends meet, it's a nice thing to do and it's what we're asked to do in the bible and like I say, people are very generous.
So the other day I, and the Girl from Down the Street, sorted the stuff into boxes. There were ten in all, neatly arranged and awaiting distribution like little soldiers waiting for their assignments. There were all sorts of delights within; beans, peas, pasta, sauces, pudding rice, cereal... even some toiletries and cleaning material, everything anyone could need.
The day after sorting them I rocked up with my trusty steed of a car to load and distribute the loot. All was going well until the last box. It sat there on the floor, gleaming with pride. It was a beautifully arranged box with a good even spread of foodstuffs. It was the daddy of the boxes that day, the supreme receptacle, the King, the overlord, the terminator.. you get the idea - it was a box with some good stuff inside.
Then I lifted it.
The box came up but the contents stayed still. The bottom of the box was weak and useless, the tape had failed, the cardboard had folded and it's reign as the Don was over. Shame and disappointment gripped it like a T-Rex grips a goat, the sham had been uncovered, the end had come.
Such is life. We fill it with all the funky accessories we value - a job with a good wage, a shiny car, shiny kids and a shiny spouse. We eat well, socialise well, get lots of high-fives when we 'knock 'em dead' and rumpy-pumpy on our king-sized bed. We fill our box with all the box-tickers of earthly success; it looks good, it feels good, it smells good. But then we go to lift it.
It's those times of turbulence that test the strength of our life-box and it will always be found wanting. The truth is that you can fill your box up with all sorts of cool stuff but it's counts for nothing if you've got the wrong box.
Let me be clear. Unless you build your life in Jesus it will be weak and it will not stand up to the tests of this world. That is a fact that is clear to anyone who lives: Life is fragile and can only be got through when it is packed in Jesus Christ.
Which box is your life packed in?
We have what we call a trolley ministry in our church. It's a simple idea, people bring along some extra groceries to church and leave them in a trolley in the front hall. Once it has built up a bit those groceries are passed on to families who are struggling to make ends meet, it's a nice thing to do and it's what we're asked to do in the bible and like I say, people are very generous.
So the other day I, and the Girl from Down the Street, sorted the stuff into boxes. There were ten in all, neatly arranged and awaiting distribution like little soldiers waiting for their assignments. There were all sorts of delights within; beans, peas, pasta, sauces, pudding rice, cereal... even some toiletries and cleaning material, everything anyone could need.
The day after sorting them I rocked up with my trusty steed of a car to load and distribute the loot. All was going well until the last box. It sat there on the floor, gleaming with pride. It was a beautifully arranged box with a good even spread of foodstuffs. It was the daddy of the boxes that day, the supreme receptacle, the King, the overlord, the terminator.. you get the idea - it was a box with some good stuff inside.
Then I lifted it.
The box came up but the contents stayed still. The bottom of the box was weak and useless, the tape had failed, the cardboard had folded and it's reign as the Don was over. Shame and disappointment gripped it like a T-Rex grips a goat, the sham had been uncovered, the end had come.
It's those times of turbulence that test the strength of our life-box and it will always be found wanting. The truth is that you can fill your box up with all sorts of cool stuff but it's counts for nothing if you've got the wrong box.
Let me be clear. Unless you build your life in Jesus it will be weak and it will not stand up to the tests of this world. That is a fact that is clear to anyone who lives: Life is fragile and can only be got through when it is packed in Jesus Christ.
Which box is your life packed in?
"Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.
5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing."
John 15:3-5
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Wednesday, 7 September 2011
Don't fear the tear
Those moments when you can let out a big hearty guffaw, loose control and roll about on the floor. Those special-memory making minutes of side-splitting euphoria are a gift from God, a giddy release from the everyday normal-ness of life on earth.
But friendships and family-ships aren't powered by the breeze of laughter but by the gale of tears. It's when a heart is breaking and another breaks with it that the strongest relationships are forged.
Don't be afraid to be afraid with the ones you love. Don't be afraid to cry with each other - when you look back, they will be your most joy-filled moments, the moments when you grow, the moments that make you close, the moments that make you a family.
And if you want to be a church family then you've gotta do the same. Take the stuffiness out of your pockets, remove the plastic smiles from your faces and get real with each other. Open up to your brothers and sisters and let the tears flow, there is joy to be found in the pain.
For I wrote you out of great distress and anguish of heart and with many tears, not to grieve you but to let you know the depth of my love for you.
2 Corinthians 2:4
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Tuesday, 6 September 2011
She gets it!
Bible Club Leader: Hands up if you know the answer. What is the best thing about heaven?
Five year old girl: Jesus is there!
Amen.
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Monday, 5 September 2011
Million pound ambition
A wee while ago I was asked by an inspirational friend of mine, 'If you had a million pounds what ministry would you spend it on?' I had no answer.
The truth is that it was never something I felt I needed to think about because it was unlikely that I was ever going to be offered that much cash in the first place. But still, I had no answer and my mind started searching for one.
How about a groovy extension to our church with some storage space and a state-of-art-coffee-shop? Or developing some sort of techy on-line ministry that would reach the world? Or a team of fifty workers to shake the place up and do all the hard graft for us?
The possibilities are seemingly endless, especially in a wee church like ours that isn't used to having surplus funds to throw at big projects.
That fact is though that all the money in the world won't make much difference unless we are in step with God. If our church has a beautiful building or a big staff or fancy-pants technology but is cold, or hurt, or disinterested then the nice stuff is just lipstick on a pig.
I still have no answer for my inspirational friend, but I know this: I won't be wasting my time praying for a million pounds, I'll ask God for something important instead - The salvation of my friends and family and the restoration of my church. Make us whole again Lord Jesus.
What would you spend a million bucks on?
Monday, 23 May 2011
Get your motor runnin'
What makes your world rock?
We all have something that pushes our buttons, sometimes in a most beautiful and freeing way and other times in a hedonistic, pleasure-fuelled, guilt-inducing haze.
Don't pour out your passion onto food or wine or images on a screen. Don't waste your worship on money or drugs or the latest fad on the music scene. Be excited about being God's and dance for Jesus.
Do you have a passion for fashion or get in a frenzy for football? Do you get dreamy over dogs or go crazy for cupcakes? Is it meeting A-list stars or driving shiny cars? Is it drinking fancy liquors or seeing pretty girls in their knickers? What is it that gets you going, what moves you to madness?
We all have something that pushes our buttons, sometimes in a most beautiful and freeing way and other times in a hedonistic, pleasure-fuelled, guilt-inducing haze.Last night I was introduced to the oratory talents of Louis Giglio and he reckons that we should get a little crazy when we remember the life-changing affect Jesus has on those of us that know Him already. Not so that it becomes impossible for us to function or so that others might think we should be avoided but just every now and then, we should allow ourselves to get super-excited about the super-exciting, supernatual power of God, a bit like David did when he danced in the streets because his God had brought the Ark back to Jerusalem (read it here!).
Imagine getting excited about Jesus, imagine being that guy or that girl that is not ashamed to express the wonders of God in their life and sing and dance and shout hallelujah.
Sadly in the culture I grew up in it is considered odd to do this. Ulster says no to letting yourself go. We must be ordered and serious and reverent. And indeed we must. Our God is a God of order, He makes sense and we are to be sensible. But we should not let order rob us of the wonder of worship and the freedom of praise.
'I will celebrate before the LORD. I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes.'
2 Samuel 6:21-22
Monday, 16 May 2011
Looking for love?
People are lonely.
Not all people - but a lot are. Some people are lonely by themselves, they want to be in company, they want friends but they find them hard to come by. Others are lonely in the midst of a crowd, very much loved and surrounded by people who are prepared to make sacrifices for their good but then, when they lie in bed at night, they feel totally alone.
Others don't have this problem, they are content with the friends and family they have. Sometimes these people get annoyed or confused by the lonely people, they find it hard to sympathize. They look at the lonely people and think surely if they were just easier to get along with or if they weren't so opinionated/obstinate/shy/grumpy/odd/smelly they would find the friendships they are looking for. And those people who feel lonely when they are surrounded by people who love them, what's wrong with those people? They are ungrateful and undeserving of those people whose love they reject.
I don't know why some people feel lonely or struggle to make friends but I do know that they are lonely and feeling lonely sucks. They need grace and patience from others, they need to be loved even when it is temptin to walk away.
Others don't have this problem, they are content with the friends and family they have. Sometimes these people get annoyed or confused by the lonely people, they find it hard to sympathize. They look at the lonely people and think surely if they were just easier to get along with or if they weren't so opinionated/obstinate/shy/grumpy/odd/smelly they would find the friendships they are looking for. And those people who feel lonely when they are surrounded by people who love them, what's wrong with those people? They are ungrateful and undeserving of those people whose love they reject.
I don't know why some people feel lonely or struggle to make friends but I do know that they are lonely and feeling lonely sucks. They need grace and patience from others, they need to be loved even when it is temptin to walk away.
Below is a postcard from the website postsecret. It shows someone pinning their hopes on another person, that's too much pressure. Look to God and He will be with you through your lonely times.
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24
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Tuesday, 3 May 2011
The enemy within
It's 2011; people are calm and reasonable, right? Wrong.
I recently had the dubious pleasure of a trip across the water to Old Trafford football ground to watch Manchester United play Everton. I was travelling with a United fan and a neutral but I, alas, am an Everton man.
Yes, Roger, the Sage-on-the-Hill and myself made use of someone else's season tickets and found ourselves in the largest stand of the largest club stadium in England, just us and 75, 297 others. Roger was wearing a lovely red number, the Sage was in pastel shades and I was proudly sporting a 1996 Everton home top, all was well.
All was not well.
While sitting in our seats as the crowd started to filter in we were approached by a little jobsworth steward in a fluorescent jacket who pointed at my shirt and said, 'You can't wear that here.' I was flabbergasted. In this day and age, in a time where everyone sits during a match, in a time when prawn sandwiches and G&T have replaced pies and beer, in an enlightened era of cosmopolitan footballers and their A-list wag's, in this time a little ginger man can't sit alone with a different coloured shirt to the 75, 299 around him without fear of being beaten to a pulp if his team scores first! It's a disgrace I tells ya - a disgrace.
I put a jumper on. Problem solved.
As in football, so too in life. I am in enemy territory. This world belongs to the devil but I don't. I have a different coloured shirt on. The problem is that the world fears those in God's team but we must stand strong, we must declare our allegiance and suffer the consequences, we must be prepared for a battle.
Unfortunately we (Christians) have a tendency to, metaphorically speaking, put our jumpers on over our shirts. We still are on the Lord's side but we just don't shout about it. We still want our enemy beaten but just as long as we don't get a beating along the way.
I recently had the dubious pleasure of a trip across the water to Old Trafford football ground to watch Manchester United play Everton. I was travelling with a United fan and a neutral but I, alas, am an Everton man.
All was not well.
While sitting in our seats as the crowd started to filter in we were approached by a little jobsworth steward in a fluorescent jacket who pointed at my shirt and said, 'You can't wear that here.' I was flabbergasted. In this day and age, in a time where everyone sits during a match, in a time when prawn sandwiches and G&T have replaced pies and beer, in an enlightened era of cosmopolitan footballers and their A-list wag's, in this time a little ginger man can't sit alone with a different coloured shirt to the 75, 299 around him without fear of being beaten to a pulp if his team scores first! It's a disgrace I tells ya - a disgrace.
I put a jumper on. Problem solved.
As in football, so too in life. I am in enemy territory. This world belongs to the devil but I don't. I have a different coloured shirt on. The problem is that the world fears those in God's team but we must stand strong, we must declare our allegiance and suffer the consequences, we must be prepared for a battle.
Unfortunately we (Christians) have a tendency to, metaphorically speaking, put our jumpers on over our shirts. We still are on the Lord's side but we just don't shout about it. We still want our enemy beaten but just as long as we don't get a beating along the way.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes
Romans 1:16
Monday, 18 April 2011
Going part-time
This is more of a public service announcement than a blog post.
I am reasonably slow of thought and putting a post together can take me quite some time and, at the moment, is taking me more time than I have. The upshot is that I am going part-time.
I'm much too much of a megalomaniac to stop posting altogether so instead I'll put a post up when I'm particularly exercised or enthused to do so. Updates, as ever, can be found through the might of 'facebook' and I hope you will not forget me in between times.
God bless,
Phil.
I love writing my thoughts down, it's quite therapeutic and, at times, cathartic. It is also quite time consuming. You are forgiven if you are surprised at that. When you read some of the rambling rubbish I churn out I'm sure it seems like it's been thrown together in a matter of minutes but that's far from the case.
I'm much too much of a megalomaniac to stop posting altogether so instead I'll put a post up when I'm particularly exercised or enthused to do so. Updates, as ever, can be found through the might of 'facebook' and I hope you will not forget me in between times.
Thursday, 14 April 2011
Where have all the heroes gone?
(DISCLAIMER: I wrote this while in a bad mood.)
Are people getting increasingly pathetic?
It used to be that when a person committed themselves it meant something. It was a promise and a promise was a precious thing that should not be broken. I wonder if that still holds.
Do we molly-coddle our children and young people too much? Do we indulge them so much that their backbones fail to develop properly? And at what age does someone become an adult these days?
In days of yore children (there where no kids in those days just children) left school at 12 years old and did one of two things: they either got paid employment or they worked in the house. Over the years that age has been pushed up and up to reflect the importance that society has placed on education and I for one think that is a good thing.
The problem is that along with lengthening the period of full-time education the period of childhood has been artificially lengthened in the process. I fell foul of this myself, I didn't leave home until I married at 28, I should've contributed more to my family home whether with money or with practical things. In spite of this I still knew what responsibility was, I still knew that if someone was relying on me I had to follow through; if I had made a promise I had to fulfill it.
I'm tired. I'm busy. I need a social life. I'm not feeling well. These all seem to be acceptable reasons for letting people down, they're not. (And while I'm at it; 'sorry' seems to no longer be the hardest word. It's used frequently and disingenuously.)
Not all young people are like this of course. I know a few who are real corkers, unfortunately they are becoming few and far between. What do you think?
Are people getting increasingly pathetic?
It used to be that when a person committed themselves it meant something. It was a promise and a promise was a precious thing that should not be broken. I wonder if that still holds.
Do we molly-coddle our children and young people too much? Do we indulge them so much that their backbones fail to develop properly? And at what age does someone become an adult these days?
In days of yore children (there where no kids in those days just children) left school at 12 years old and did one of two things: they either got paid employment or they worked in the house. Over the years that age has been pushed up and up to reflect the importance that society has placed on education and I for one think that is a good thing.
The problem is that along with lengthening the period of full-time education the period of childhood has been artificially lengthened in the process. I fell foul of this myself, I didn't leave home until I married at 28, I should've contributed more to my family home whether with money or with practical things. In spite of this I still knew what responsibility was, I still knew that if someone was relying on me I had to follow through; if I had made a promise I had to fulfill it.
I'm tired. I'm busy. I need a social life. I'm not feeling well. These all seem to be acceptable reasons for letting people down, they're not. (And while I'm at it; 'sorry' seems to no longer be the hardest word. It's used frequently and disingenuously.)
Not all young people are like this of course. I know a few who are real corkers, unfortunately they are becoming few and far between. What do you think?
Above all, my brothers, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your “Yes” be yes, and your “No,” no, or you will be condemned.
James 5:12
Wednesday, 13 April 2011
Broken
Juliet Turner: Broken Things
You can have my heart
But it isn't new
It's been used and broken
And only comes in blue
It's been down a long road
And it got dirty on the way
If I give it to you will you make it clean
And wash the pain away
You can have my heart
If you don't mind broken things
You can have my heart if you don't mind these tears
Well I heard that you make old things new
So I give these pieces all to you
If you want it you can have my heart
So beyond repair
Nothing I could do
I tried to fix it myself
But it was only worse when I got through
Then you walked right into my darkness
And you speak words so sweet
And you hold me like a child
Till my frozen tears fall at your feet
You can have my heart
If you don't mind broken things
You can have my heart if you don't mind these tears
Well I heard that you make old things new
So I give these pieces all to you
If you want it you can have my heart
You can have my heart
But it isn't new
It's been used and broken
And only comes in blue
It's been down a long road
And it got dirty on the way
If I give it to you will you make it clean
And wash the pain away
You can have my heart
If you don't mind broken things
You can have my heart if you don't mind these tears
Well I heard that you make old things new
So I give these pieces all to you
If you want it you can have my heart
So beyond repair
Nothing I could do
I tried to fix it myself
But it was only worse when I got through
Then you walked right into my darkness
And you speak words so sweet
And you hold me like a child
Till my frozen tears fall at your feet
You can have my heart
If you don't mind broken things
You can have my heart if you don't mind these tears
Well I heard that you make old things new
So I give these pieces all to you
If you want it you can have my heart
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Tuesday, 12 April 2011
Scrubbers unite
There's nothing quite like a thorough spring clean.
It's been a long winter with cold days and dark nights. You go out in the dark and you come home in the dark. Housework is not the priority and you go into 'ticking-over' mode.
Then spring arrives. The days lengthen, your mood brightens and you're up for some rigorous scubbing. You pull out wardrobes and fridges, dust the top of lampshades and rearrage the book shelves. Things need sorted and you sort them.
Time for a spring clean of the heart too. You've been tired and let things slide. You're still not talking to that friend because the first conversation will be too much hassle, you've indulged in something wrong but comfortable, you've been doing the same old things without any thought as to whether they are the right things for you or not.
Take some time with God, let him clear all the cobwebs and help you get back on the right track. Spring cleaning can feel like a real chore but imagine if it never got done!
It's been a long winter with cold days and dark nights. You go out in the dark and you come home in the dark. Housework is not the priority and you go into 'ticking-over' mode.
Take some time with God, let him clear all the cobwebs and help you get back on the right track. Spring cleaning can feel like a real chore but imagine if it never got done!
Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
Psalm 51:10
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